Blake Lively may lead a seemingly impeccable life, but she’s sick of people thinking she’s got it all together.
Donning a black Saint Laurent by Anthony Vaccarello dress and flower necklace, the All I See Is You star stuns on the cover of Glamour‘s September issue. In her accompanying interview, she opens up about the misconceptions that she’s “perfect,” sexism and life at home with her husband, Ryan Reynolds, and their two kids, daughters James, 2, and Ines, 10 months.
“It’s nonsense,” she says of people constantly saying her life has no flaws. “It simplifies people. Not all men, but a subsection of men have a desire to understand and control women. To do that, you have to paint them into this thing you can wrap your head around. But women are complex. It also is [a reminder] that what you see in the media is not real life.”
“The night before an interview, I have complete anxiety [thinking], ‘How is this person going to spin me?'” she adds. “So when you read, ‘Oh, she’s got a perfect life,’ or ‘Her life is crumbling’ — they pick narratives for everyone. And the narratives stick.”
Lively continues on, crediting the 2016 election for helping her become “more aware, more conscious and more sensitive” of sexism and discrimination “in all areas.”
“I had realized that there were problems [before],” he explains. “I do a lot of work against sex trafficking. There are hundreds of thousands of missing-children reports in the United States each year — some of those children are sex-trafficked. But that’s not reported. You see [stories about] only the wealthy, middle-class white girls who’ve been kidnapped. There are people missing all the time, and because they’re minorities, because they come from impoverished neighborhoods, they don’t make the news. That is so devastating.”
She says she’s “lucky” to have someone like Ryan Reynolds, who is not only “so conscious” of these type of issues, but is also conscious of the language they use around their kids.
“My husband was like, ‘Why do I always say he?’ And I said, ‘That’s what we’re taught,'” she tells Glamour. “So he’ll pick up, like a caterpillar, and instead of saying, ‘What’s his name?’ he’ll say, ‘What’s her name?’ Or we’ve joked that my daughter is bossy. But my husband said, ‘I don’t ever want to use that word again. You’ve never heard a man called bossy.’ …. There would never be any negative connotation for a man being a boss, so to add a negative connotation on a woman being bossy? It’s belittling. And it doesn’t encourage them to be a boss. So do I know how to be the best parent for a daughter? No, I have no idea. All I can do is share what I’m thinking and learn from others.”
All seriousness aside, Lively says there’s a lot of laughs at their household over the fake stories Reynolds famously shares on Twitter.
“He may as well work for the Enquirer,” she jokes. “When he says ‘my daughter,’ he’s never, ever talking about her. Everything is a completely made-up scenario. He’ll run them by me sometimes just to make me laugh.”
“But oh, I’m so in love with him when he writes that stuff,” she adds. “I mean, I’m in love with him most of the time, but especially with that. I said, ‘Most of the time,’ because if I say, ‘I’m so in love with him all the time,’ then you get that eye-rolling, ‘Oh, her life is so great, she’s so perfect.’ So it’s, like, my defense mechanism.”
When ET caught up with Reynolds at a press junket for his latest action comedy, The Hitman’s Bodyguard, earlier this month, he told us he occasionally reads his tweets to Lively before posting.
“Some of the ones about our daughter or parenting ones or [with] advice no one should take, I run past her, in case she objects,” the 40-year-old actor and father of two explained. “Otherwise it’s mostly stuff done on like, an airplane, flying somewhere.”
Hear more from our exclusive sit-down with Reynolds in the video below!
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