Rizzo likewise credits the time she invested genuinely feeling her sensations for the much better location she remains in today.
“Some people really repress it,” she stated. “And when you feel it coming on, they’re like, ‘Nope, nope, nope, not gonna deal with it, not going to talk about it, not going to cry, not going to experience it.’ And what I’ve learned, and I think the reason I’m doing so well now, and I’ve been okay, is because I went through it. I didn’t try to go around it, I never tried to go over it or under it, I went through it.”
In the start, “it’s every five minutes,” Rizzo continued. “Then after a couple of [days], possibly it’s every half hour, and after that it’s every hour, and after that it’s when a day– or a couple of times a day– and after that it’s a couple of times a week. Whatever it is, when those waves of sorrow simply strike you, simply resemble, ‘Oh, I feel it beginning, here it comes,’ and after that simply weep, get it out, feel the discomfort.”
Yes, she acknowledged, “It sucks. But whether it’s for one minute or 10 minutes or 20, however long that wave is, just let it happen. And then afterwards, you’re going to feel better. Like it’s almost like a release and a relief that you actually experienced it, and then you feel better going forward versus avoiding it.”
